“The magic will happen when you stop listening to the negative voices in your head and start believing in yourself” – Amazing Me Movement.
How to be a super mum/achiever when you don’t like structure.
P.S. This advice is for everyone but especially for entrepreneurs and for people who do not allocate time for their self-care (busy mums this one is for you).
I don’t know about you, but I fight against structure. The idea that every day, I do this at this time, and that at that time, does not bode well with me. I like my days to be free and flowing, so that I can do what I like and respond to my inspiration.
This used to work against me in terms of business because I was so free, I had no hard and fast rules for making sure I got the imperative things on my list done every day.
Lately I’ve made room for the belief that I am free to do all the things I want to do, including grow my business, and that I get to do it my way (unstructured). I get to tune into what I feel like doing and do that. And very often, it is something on my imperative list.
I’ve got two lists, important, and imperative. The only rule I’ve made for myself in my business (and I don’t like rules because I’m a rule-breaker, not a rule-maker), is to get three imperative things done each day, and one important thing done (because let’s face it the important things are very often the tasks we put off).
If you are a mum, and all you do is ‘mum’ (and this is getting you down), then I suggest that you add three daily self-care tasks to your imperative list. Things like read a chapter, have a bath, dance to your favorite song, meditate, yoga, pull some oracle cards, call a friend or a family member… Whatever the things are that raise your vibe and light you up!
Then, I’d ask that all the important things you need to do (like dishes, washing or cooking) do not come at the expense of your self-care or business priorities. No one is going to give you permission to put your own life jacket on before your families, except you. Make sure that you put the things that make you a better person and a happier you, on the top of your to do list.
When you value yourself and your needs as a priority (whether it be sanity, health or business goals), then all else runs more smoothly.
With any goals that you have made a daily imperative, make sure that you tune into the big picture ‘why’, before you do the task. A quick visualisation (of the end result and feeling the feeling it will produce) will help you value the importance of doing the thing, and make you actually want to do it. The secret of flow is wanting to do the things you really want to do and not resisting them.
Also, tune into any resistance and get to know it intimately. Some journal prompts to help you are, what are the beliefs behind this resistance that are stopping me from moving forwards? Are they true? What do I need to think, and how do I need to show up today, to be the person/ mum/ bossbabe that I truly want to be?
The days will either slip away and you will end up wondering what happened, or you will set intentions each day and make space for the things that are imperative and important to you. You get to choose.
My sincere hope is that you do take the time today to do the things you love – play, dance or conquer the world, whatever it is that makes you happy and brings your soul joy.
And remember – you are the divine being who makes the grass greener xx
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